DIVORCE: CONTEMPLATING SUICIDE (SORRY IT IS VERY LONG)?
I’m a thirty year aged white masculine who used to be a nerd in tall propagandize as well as college . we never had a self-respect to ask a lady out . Born in a middle-class, overly-puritan, regressive, Catholics family, we tied together a 1st lady we ever antiquated, a classmate in NYU Law Propagandize . After law propagandize, we proposed a family as well as right divided have 2 kids . My mother was a gimlet even behind afterwards, though she successfully seduced me as we had no knowledge to verbalise of . My kin speedy this kinship wholeheartedly given she’s a counsel as well as had a identical upbringing similar to me . Additionally, both my parents/wife have been opposite pre-marital sex, termination, as well as divorce.
As we entered a genuine universe as well as met all sorts of people, we progressively benefit a sure grade of certainty . Right divided, we wish to divorce my mother given she’s additionally removing out-of-shape( she was never in figure, though it’s removing worse) as well as never put upon make-up( bra-burning feminists ?) It would be fine if she let me watch porn, go to hooters, go to a nightclub/strip club/get a lapdance, each right divided as well as afterwards, though she’s really possessive as well as overly suspicious . She finds a aforementioned activities demeaning to women given she’s a feminist . ( she’s not a sex-positive feminist, who finds them lenient) . We have no sex hold up whatsoever, generally after a bieing born of my young kids . A approach she does it is professional as well as requisite . She never wears any of a voluptuous slip as well as costumes we paid for her . She gave me a despotic curfew as well as frequency let me outlay time with my friends as well as colleagues . She even hired a investigator to petiole me.
In a past, we would only give in similar to a approach we gave in to my kin behind in tall propagandize( 9 o’clock curfew, no girlfriends, church each week end) . Though not prolonged ago we had an epiphany: we don’t wish a rest of my hold up to be similar to this . we wish to live my hold up to a fullest . we wish to have up a time we mislaid in a final thirty years . we don’t wish my kids to grow up a approach we did possibly . After a couple of affairs as well as visits to “fantasy suites” together with a week end getaway in Las Vegas, we met a lady of my mental condition in Mar this year . She utterly blew me divided . She’s a college novice for an join forces with of cave . She is a hottest lady we have ever set steer upon, a sort we regularly dreamed of dating behind in tall propagandize as well as college though never had a possibility . She’s a leggy blonde with flattering grin, dark-skinned skin, spare figure, as well as extraordinary t!ts( 32DD healthy breasts), She’s useful, laid-back, as well as funny.
I wish her to pierce in with me . Though we have to confront my mother initial . we wish to divorce my mother, though my kin will never pardon me patently . Though for a single time in my hold up we wish to be my own trainer . we additionally wish my young kids( age 4 as well as 1) to stay with me given we don’t wish them to have a same regrets . They get along with my partner as well . we know it will be a prolonged as well as sour control conflict, though I’m ready . I’m happy substantially for a initial time ever.
Many people, together with my kin, family friends( mutual friends with my mother), as well as kin have pronounced horrible things about my partner as well as me, though we abandoned them . we rsther than die than give in this time . In actuality, I’ve contemplated self-murder . Can we guys sympathize with my incident ? Advice is welcome.
Listen, suicide is not the answer. However gloomy things may seem today, tomorrow is a much brighter picture. Just have patient and you will work through all of this. Trust me, I know!
You first need to address the divorce issue. If there is no chance for you and your wife to make it, then by all means divorce her, life is too short to be constantly unhappy.
As far as the girlfriend, don’t just jump into anything without thought.
Suicide? Way wrong answer. Life may seem unbearable at times, but anything can be overcome with the right circumstances. Your children deserve to have a father around, and you would be abandoning them to the life you want to protect them from.
Suicide is not the answer.. I would divorce her, i’m sure your parents would understands.. atleast eventually..
WOW I can’t believe I actually sat here and read this CRAP!!!!!!!!! You need some serious counceling??? I mean a NICE BIG COUCH!!! Your so screwed up, you don’t know what you want??? Go get HELP?????
no i don’t sympathize on you.
you obviously change bec you met the other girl
you are cheating with her.
if you truly love your wife you will never ever criticize her.
i hope that girl will never do that to you.karma will comes back to you
your marriage is over people need to face it,you both deserve the right to be happy,but its not your wife’s fault shes obviously a good mum and her LifeStyle and beliefs are her right and upbringing,be careful with the kids they will need both parents and whatever you do don’t criticise her as children see themselves as half mum ,half dad ,as a woman i would say get out and both have the chance for happiness,life is about compromise sometimes and it sound like you have done nothing but follow others wishes about time ,your wishes were most important.suiside is not the way out what about your kids,girlfriend and wife,they would never forgive themselves,hope you get what you want ,time for you to be happy[about the sex thing ,you can’t expect someone to turn from a nun to a sex maniac]
She wont let you do this wont let you do that? No woman should tell you what to do….kick her fat ass to the curb and start living!! Lifes too short dude. Dont ever let a bitch control you, especially an ugly one.
Grab your hot young chick and have fun. F**K your wife!!!
suicide is the worst en stupid thing to do ,there is no need running away from the problem than facing it,anyway just ias i have seen u have come a long way but i can tell u have realised all this when u have started cheating on your wife,why dont u make ur wife beatifull as her en make ur life happy than being like that,anyway its ur choice en seems too late to change ur mind but ,even that good looking lady one day she will bore u,i know
I’m intrigued due to the fact it was very liable for the decision you made to get married or not. It’s not hypothetical here, but what gives me a trigger here is where to assign the blame? You or her?
It’s very likely you would meet someone else more appealing down the road. It happens all the time.
I married my wife and three years later this Angel walks into my path that look so good the very thought of having sex with her in bed made me jump, but how high and I end up having an affair and wanting to leave my wife for her.
It was a very hard battle for me to stay or leave.
In the end, the decision was to stay with no regrets and now after 24 years of marriage I look back and think to myself did my decision cause what prevailed later in my marriage for more heartaches.
No need to turn back the pages now since my age at 49 yrs is climbing and I’m not that young whipper snapper like I use to be, but now as for dating an Attorney that I did do. She was very appealing and my love for her clashed against all odds to the point I would’ve come dependent on her and not have pursued my own goals as I did.
When we are confronted with angles of many directions not all the lines are straight, some are curved and some bend like infraction of the light pearcing through your heart.
This my answer If you choose to leave your marriage and try once again to find someone that your more compatible with then do it now before it’s too late. The longer you ponder the harder it will be down the road.
Right now my wife needs me because she depends on me totally 100%. She doesn’t work at all because of her health. She is not well. If I leave her now, it will kill her.
I’m stuck in marriage I prefer not to be in, but have no other choice and that is what sparked the love affairs and despite them all she knows this and still refuses to leave me.
I behave myself now and take care of her and show her love when it’s due, but my marriage is not what it should be and for the life of me it’s too late to change it now.
This is the very reason your up against a big wall right now and the choices we make sometimes are not good ones based on relationship or just a virtue to need love or comfort from someone else other than your wife. Love affairs sometimes save marriages and on the other hand they destroy them./
As for suicide…I’ve been there before too. You can think about it, but don’t do it.
The last time I contemplated suicide I had to review my Life Insurance policy to make sure I was covered…thats a joke.
Forget suicide and concentrate on your life here on earth and what you can do to make it better for YOU
You decide…weight the facts and execute after you do your homework good enough to lay down a new paved road for yourself, but do not make habits of change because then you will become the change of habit.
Aldo Rosado
USAF/71 TCF
No offense but you sound like a pig. Girlfriend and wife?? If you don’t like your wife, divorce her. Then get a girlfriend, not the other way around.
So your wife knows about the gf? I would think she would want a divorce if she knows. If she doesnt know then you need to realize that you just ended her dream life. It might not have been yours, but it could have been hers. Marriage is hard. I know I have one. You have ups and downs. People change and that is just how it is. As far as the kids go…it will be hard. She is controlling as most women are when it comes to their children. Honestly to make it easier for the kids…I would just arrange something that you and her will both be happy with. You fighting with mom isnt gonna make them love you or her more. It will just make them wish they wasnt there. I hope you the best, but remember your not the only person in the relationship even if your planning on ending it.
You need to keep this in mind…. what kind of women sleeps with a marreid man? Not a very nice one.!1 Leave if that is what you want, but the grass is NOT always greener on the other side!
Next time she tries to give you a curfew take her up the butt.
Seriously though one would have to hear both sides of the story. Also you wont get custody.
Now is one hell of a time for you to decide you want to live your life to the fullest. You made this mess, be a man and clean it up.
I don’t understand why you are letting people get to you and boss you around. Be a man, f*ck all that. Fight for you kids and do you. Life is short, your not happy, bottom line. F*ck your parents, your wife and her parents. Its about you. Why are you still around these people? Take a stand, but be prepared for the repercussions. I guarantee you will feel much better and never have a thought of suicide again.
I think you should go ahead and get the divorce, as soon as possible. If your parents love you, which I think they probably do, they will eventually get over it. But you need to reign in and try to act dignified during the divorce, don’t go totally crazy with everything you want to do right away or you may be judged an unfit father for the kids. And keep in mind that a huge amount of time, the mother is going to get the kids. You may lose them, and you have to think about that too.